Because I hate living where I live now - been abused and beaten up by my parents and makes me pay money for car rides. Dad destroyed my DDR because I said I won't go to university. I had bruises, pains, and depression.
So that's my motive. I've even called the kids help phone for support when I was beaten, and the guy said some child abuse center can give me a place to live away from my family without any cost. But I want to live alone, not with some other abused kids or with a different family.... I DO have a job - 20hrs a week with $7.50 wage.
But I also want atleast $35,000~50,000 saved up in 6 years. I'm in grade 11, 16 years old.
What should I do? My main goal is to earn enough money. Should I countinue living with my family and suck it all up (which WILL earn me more money because my parents pays the bills) or go live on my own (possibly with a roommate or with an organization support?)
Is it possible to live on my OWN with somekind of a government support or orginizations?
The only way you would be able to live alone is if you pay for it. The government isnt going to pay a 16 year old to live on his own.
I understand you wanting to live alone but beggars cant be choosers, you either take whats out there like everyone else or you stay where you are.
Is it possible to live on my OWN with somekind of a government support or orginizations?
First off no..the government isn't going to help you live on your own. And I can't think of any non profits that give money for that either. So you on your own.
If the abuse is bad...by that i mean sexual in any way, injuries that need medical care, or your so depressed that you have thought about hurting yourself then you need to get help through the help line or through your counties department of social services......and move into a teen group home or live with foster parents.
But if you are just not getting along with your folks and your hitting on them and verbally abusing them right back... well then maybe you need to grow up a little before thinking of moving out on your own.
You say you want to have a large savings in a few years ....well good luck I have a good job and have never had that much just sitting in savings...its expensive to live on your own.
My advice is to finish high school because without that your chances of keeping any job isn't good..even the one you say you have now. Most jobs will let you go if you turn 18 and don't have your GED or HS diploma or are currently working on it. Stay at home if you can at least until you graduate.
And by the way making you pay for rides is not abuse.
Good Luck
Is it possible to live on my OWN with somekind of a government support or orginizations?
I'm sorry to hear that. You could live with us. I think you can stick it out another year when you turn 17 the laws can't come after you and treat you like a runaway. Be strong. I wonder why they treat you so badly.
Is it possible to live on my OWN with somekind of a government support or orginizations?
talk to a lawyer. it could happen but then youll be on your own. bad situation possibily turn better, id try anything
good luck
Is it possible to live on my OWN with somekind of a government support or orginizations?
it is possible to live on your own your parents have to sign a statment that you wish to live on your own and have it noterized I cant remember the name for it (been up too long) but do finsh school so that you can earn a better life if you have any friends at school talk with her parents and see if they would be willing to have another person living with them tell them that you could pay for your food and maybe help out around the house or let the state help you some how
Is it possible to live on my OWN with somekind of a government support or orginizations?
I would live at home if I were you. It seems to me that the only thing you have going for you is a good work ethic - by that I mean, you appreciate that work earns money, money is worth saving and spending cautiously. There are kids who don't grasp that fact.
I am sorry that you report you have been abused and beaten. It surprises me that given that, you wouldn't choose to live with another family or with other abused kids. It makes me wonder whether the 'abuse' you describe was severe enough to warrant being mentioned in the very first sentence of your question. It kind of sets the stage for the reaction: Let's get this poor kid out of this bad situation.
What are you doing to be beaten and what does a beating mean? I would think if you don't do anything and you receive severe beatings, you would prefer almost anything else.
It's kind of a rigid demand: 'I want to live alone.' Surely you know by now that living alone is going to be tremendously expensive and you wouldn't be happy watching your hard-earned money go to housing (probably fairly bad housing at that).
$7.50 an hour, 20 hours a week: you refuse to go to university. Do you realize that by going to university, you would be able to earn more freedom by studying and you'd be able to make a lot more money than that paltry hourly wage when you graduate?
I think your rigid demand to have someone pay you to live alone is getting in the way of common sense. You say you are 16 - I imagine if you walked into any high school, there would be a good percentage of kids who would love to have someone pay for them to live alone. Hey, that would be my tax money paying for those kids (living alone, you can certainly party more!)
The best I can say is: keep that goal of saving money. Your parents did something right instilling an appreciation of saving in you. But I want you to keep this in mind: It may take you 6 years to save up $35,000. If you were lucky and worked extra hard. It costs about that much to have a roof repaired and a house painted - depending on where you live. These are the expenses your parents face (just some of the expenses) and they must be done every so many years. That sounds like a lot of money to you. But to responsible adults who have a household, that money is gone in a flash.
As I said, I'd continue to live at home and save my money. Also, try to learn from your parents about the cost of living in the adult world. You are still a kid.
Is it possible to live on my OWN with somekind of a government support or orginizations?
I'm so sorry to hear of your troubled life! I must say however, that I feel at the age of 16 you are too young to be out on your own. All the money in the world isn't going to solve your problems.
It would be a good idea to get help through your family doctor or guidance department at school. Perhaps you have uncles, aunts or grandparents who would be willing to take you in for a while. You need to finish your education and continue to earn money at a part-time job for now and continue to save up your money.
The problems that you would encounter with roommates at this time are not something your should have to deal with at point of your life. You need to get emotional support at this time .... to get you through the abuse situation. This is why I recommend speaking with your family doctor first.
Good luck, young friend .... life isn't' easy but don't make it harder on yourself by taking steps into things that will potentially only bring you more problems! Be strong and speak to other family members whom you can trust.
My thoughts are with you ... you sound like a very responsible and grounded teenager, stay that way. I wish you success!
Is it possible to live on my OWN with somekind of a government support or orginizations?
This is my advice for you and I am sure you can make it. First I urge you to pass the high school exam and you can go to college far away from your home. Then you will earn your freedom by applying scholarships and grants for college. Go to FAST WEB.com and see if you can find money from writing the essay. There are plenty of free money to go around. Search the net and see the way you can earn money than working for 150 dollars a week. You can not live on your own if you do not have a degree and finish college. you do not have to have 4.5 to attend college. Try harder and stop fighting with your family. It will not make you going no where,unless you go away for college then you have your own freedom. The non-profit or government will not guarantee your living expenses and future. Try harder with your free money and hit the book for college funds. Here is my example expense that my niece has to pay every month.
Room for a rent in Burlingame $ 700 a month
PG/E and water 80 bucks a month
Book and personal expenses $ 100
Car insurance under 25 years old $ 2000 a
year
Health insurance about $ 3000 a year
Food and junk food for a month including lunch $ 600.
A car payment every month $ 250.00
A toll club like AAA $35.00
Total about 2300 dollars a month and $1000 for single tax pay each month of $ 4000 salary. Op? I forget about gas for a car $ 150 and money for saving. By the way, she graduated from college and have H1B visa to work. So she have to find a job that she can find.
Now I think you got the picture and you can analyze your situation. Good luck.
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