I live with my daughter but she doesn't like me, what can I do?

I'm a widow, have some health issues and live with my 23 you daughter. She' single, graduated in Chemistry has a good job. I live in her apartment, cntribute almost nothing and have a comfortable life. But she doesn't like me, it's been like that since she was 13. She made mistakes, i was somewhat hard on her, didn't accept her apologies, said I couldn't trust her. She was and still is a sensitive girl and got very sad, depressed. Some months later I decided she had learned her lesson but she got into an extremely resentful girl, and never came around. Despite all her resentment that came unchanged to her adulthood she ended up helping me. I do my best to show love, affection, but though I live with in her she hardly talks to me. I'm devastated, I have a great daughter, I'm grateful to her, live for free in her home, love her dearly, and she resents me so much. She doesn't accept to talk about the past, so I can do nothing. I don't know what to do.

I live with my daughter but she doesn't like me, what can I do?

aww, if u feel thats why she doesnt talk to u because u didnt accept her mistakes. tell her now that ur sorry for not understanding before. and tell her some mistakes u made growing up.

I live with my daughter but she doesn't like me, what can I do?

move

I live with my daughter but she doesn't like me, what can I do?

this is gonna sound mean, but you probably should have treated her better. and what might be in the past for you might very much still be a part of her present.

I live with my daughter but she doesn't like me, what can I do?

Ever said "I'm sorry" !?!? Goes a long way.................

Some people just can't get over childhood stuff.........its hard. I know.......

But if you haven't said I'm sorry............I can maybe see why she resents you a little...............................

Try counseling maybe.......good luck!

I live with my daughter but she doesn't like me, what can I do?

Move out, get help and hope time heals old wounds.

I live with my daughter but she doesn't like me, what can I do?

let her read what you just told us and my be shell under stand what u mean to her

I live with my daughter but she doesn't like me, what can I do?

Move out, give her distance. Shes lived with you for probably 18 years and could not wait to get out. Do you think she stll wants to live with you now that she is graduated, single, and 23? Come on. Be a good mom and give her some space. She will come around in time.

I live with my daughter but she doesn't like me, what can I do?

A widow..so you're like 40??..Come on..you should be out dating..and so should she.....give it a few more years..you'll be best friends...JUST LIKE EVERY OTHER MOTHER DAUGHTER RELATIONSHIP!!!! What make you think you are any differnt from anyone else.

I live with my daughter but she doesn't like me, what can I do?

Unless you both get some counseling, or talk amoung yourselves...she's not going to start liking you now, obviously it's been going on for years, and now with you living off her and doing nothing to help her or yourself...it's sure as rain not going to get any better!!!!!!

I live with my daughter but she doesn't like me, what can I do?

Tell her I have been so wrong in the past, and hope you can forgive me and let it go.

I live with my daughter but she doesn't like me, what can I do?

sound like your daughter needs to take a class in forgiveness

and i'm sorry but there is nothing you can do to change that chip on her shoulder maybe tell her this! what you typed

please don't think any action you can do would make it better!

i had a 3rd grade gym teacher who made me run an extra lap

in 7th grade he was my science teacher i told him i hated him for something that happend in the 3rd grade

he asked me if the weight of that 3rd grade experiance was holding me back! of course i said no!

i learn resently (26 -27 ) years old that it's not worth the hate the neggo feelings i did forgive him back in the 6th grade but a few years ago i forgave everyone who did me wrong even myself!

maybe you should just leave notes around and explain how this isn't healthy and ask her to forgive you!

then ask her if it's worth holding on to?

that's really all i can suggest!

Good luck!

my mom is sort of in the same boat i just can't deal with her sometimes she lies to much and i can't life like that!

I live with my daughter but she doesn't like me, what can I do?

Make her listen.Make a nice meal or order a meal in,or ask her if she'll go out for a meal with you,then talk to her.Make her listen.She obviously loves you,i mean im 23 and i love my mum to bits but i'd struggle living with her because i like my own space and im at the age when i want my own life.Ask her if she wants you to leave,maybe she does want to talk but doesnt know how to start or what to say or even if it'll do any good.You can't go on like that tho.Maybe write her a letter and leave it by her bed,i know it sounds silly but some people find it hard to talk.I hope you sort things out.x

I live with my daughter but she doesn't like me, what can I do?

Well . .all that "sorry and I could have done better" is great, but it's not helping obviously, and you can't cry over spilled milk as they say - what's done is done. You can only pray that with your love and nurturing she will will eventually come around, but she may not, and you may have to accept that. You know it's like being with a drug addict that hurt you, and they get clean and then want to act like every thing is wonderful. . sometimes people just can't bounce back as quickly as others. . you may have to seek other living accommodations because as much as you love her, being around someone (daughter or not) who is treating you with negativity and hostility can't be healthy.

I live with my daughter but she doesn't like me, what can I do?

Sounds like your daughter is acting like you. You say it yourself - your were somewhat hard on her and did not accept her apologies and couldn't trust her. Then some months later you decided she learned her lesson so then only did you forgive her. See the pattern you've created. If you want to change and improve your relationship with her then talk to her and tell her that you don't want to keep repeating the past. Its going to be long road but if you care for your daughter and love her then you will stick to improving this relationship - this is going to be hard but if you keep at it, things will improve. Good luck!!!

I live with my daughter but she doesn't like me, what can I do?

First of all start with admitting that YOU made mistakes also !! not just "she made mistakes " Then apologize sincerely to your daughter for the mistakes you made. Everyone maces bad decisions in life and sometimes as a parent what we do what at the time seems as if it is for the best, later we may come to realize we were wrong in how we handled a situation. Try talking about your issues together and coming to terms with the idea that no-one is a perfect mother or daughter, we ALL mace bad decisions sometimes.

I live with my daughter but she doesn't like me, what can I do?

Wow you sucked at being a mom...move out and leave your daughter to her own fricking business! seriously you are horrible to treat your own family like that...