My boyfriend only wants to live at his house?

my boyfriend and I were talking about living together and he told me that he wants me to come and live with him in his house. He has been living there for 10 years and been renovating it for 8 years. I dont want to live there, I want to look for a house that we BOTH like, but he told me that he wants to live at his house and nowhere else, and that Im being unreasonable... I understand he is attached to his house, but I have a house too and I think that its important if you are a couple that you both choose a home where you want to live. I dont want to live in his house cus I dont like the neighbourhood and I dont like his house... am I being unreasonable or is he being selfish? please help...

My boyfriend only wants to live at his house?

He wants his own space sweetie.

My boyfriend only wants to live at his house?

I dont think ur being unreasonable personally...move in with him and burn the house down by "accident" hehe!! if your cookings as bad as mine it will be believable!!!

Good luck chick! x

My boyfriend only wants to live at his house?

ask him to look for somewhere else for you both its nice to have a new house to start a new relationship together

My boyfriend only wants to live at his house?

No I dont think your being selfish. It should be a partnership you are entering into and that means joint decisions. Personally, I'd want to buy a new place and whilst I understand he loves his house, he should understand that you love yours too. Stick to your guns or you'll be giving into him for the rest of your lives

My boyfriend only wants to live at his house?

If he's spent 8 years renovating and his house is his pride and joy it's a big ask to expect him to move - why don't you like it? It obviously reflects his personal taste? If it is within commuting distance for work why don't you try for a little while then if you really can't stand it ask him to move - you have to compromise too - not just him!!

My boyfriend only wants to live at his house?

It sounds you have a choice to make - either move in with him and start your life as a couple or find the home you love (or stay in yours) and become single

Whats more important to you?

Why are you putting a block in your relationship. If he has been renovating it for 8 years then i can see why he wants to stay there. It does not sound like you are attached to your house as you want to look for somewhere else.

You can win the argument but in the end it's the relationship that looses.

My boyfriend only wants to live at his house?

i agree. me and my partner both got a house together as that way it was OURS. you are not being unreasonable i could not move into someone elses house. it has a different dynamic and effect on the relationship when you move into someone elses house.

My boyfriend only wants to live at his house?

No ur not being unreasonable.Ur reasons r the same as his.Why should his happiness b more important than urs.If he loves u he will compromise %26amp; find sumwhere that u both like which is probably the answer as u both love where u live individualy now the only fair answer 2 where 2 live 2gether is 2 find a new house in a location u both like.Its him wots b-ing selfish if he wont compromise.

My boyfriend only wants to live at his house?

stand your ground! your a woman! the men always surrender to us in the end. but if he doesn't, answer me this; do u want a stubborn man hooo wont listen to you? life is full of hard decisions, is it not?

My boyfriend only wants to live at his house?

You are not being unreasonable. As a couple you should both choose a new home together to show that this is your home and not his home with you living there. Can you see the difference? If it doesn't work he will say to you you have to go as it's his house and not really yours. Does he have a mortgage at this house of his? I have a male friend who owned his house and met a woman who had her own house and they decided to look around to buy their own new home together.

It sounds like your boyfriend is being selfish but you could compromise, but you would have to eventually put your foot down and say ok I'll move in with you for x amount of time but on the condition we start looking for our own home and you can also state you don't feel comfortable as a previous girlfriend lived there before you and that it doesn't really feel like your home because of that. Hope this helps %26amp; good luck.

My boyfriend only wants to live at his house?

well i agree with you, if you're prepared to make the sacrifice to leave your house behind, the so should he if he is serious about you

My boyfriend only wants to live at his house?

Your idea about selling both houses, makes the most sense. But the two of you need to both finish renovating your respective houses before you sell them. Then you could pool the money to buy one that you both feel comfortable living in.

My boyfriend only wants to live at his house?

He is being unreasonable, if he is truly serious about moving in together then yes you both should get rid of the old and find something together. if he is unable to then stick to your guns. Your boyfriend sounds controlling, not a good start to anything good. I have also had homes that I have put time into and yes they meant something to me but change is part of growing and there should be a compromise. If you feel pressured into getting rid of your home to move where you do not feel you will be happy then do not do it. stand your ground and if will not consider a new home where you both can start anew, where you both can start building memories (hopefully happy ones!) i do not think it will work. By moving into his home gives him the leverage to dictate the future.... is this what you want/need??

My boyfriend only wants to live at his house?

Let him keep his house it can be his little project - and then you and him find a house together once it is fully renovated sell it