Live in nannies?

Has anyone here hired a live in nanny? my husband has stayed home with our son since birth (14 months ago) but we live on a farm and would like to go out and get some more work done. We were looking into hiring a live - in nanny. Normally i am not insecure at all, but the thought of another woman caring for my son and cooking for my husband while i am at work kind of unnerves me. At first I was all for the idea, but now, I am not so sure. We live in an extremely rural area so a day-to-day babysitter is not an option, believe me we have tried.. also, the answer is no, so dont suggest daycare.

has anyone else been thru this? has anyone else had a lot of success with live in nannies? just looking for some opinions.

Live in nannies?

It is not a bad idea whatsoever but you must be prepared for the possibilities that having another female in the household can bring about.

My suggestion would be to hire an older nanny to keep your husbands thoughts on you rather then on the excitement of a fling with the "Babysitter" which is a common fantasy of many fathers.

Live in nannies?

that sounds interesting. let me know how it turns out.

Live in nannies?

they are ok, but make sure there is no hanky panky going on between DH and the nanny

Live in nannies?

The only advice I have is to go through an agency that thoroughly screens their employees. And if you have any misgivings get rid of the nanny and find another one.

Live in nannies?

I live next to a family that hired a nanny, or an au-pair from Germany. They loved it. They have three children 1 year old twins and a 4 year old. The au pair aided in everything needed for the children for one full year. That is something you may want to look into! Good luck!

Live in nannies?

I think that if I were in your shoes, I'd hire an older, ugly lady... no cute little hotties! That would make me feel much better about what's going on in my house when I'm at work. I know what most will say - that it's my own insecurity, blah, blah, blah... but being uncomfortable is being uncomfortable! If you don't feel 100% okay with your arrangement, your ill feelings will manifest in other parts of your life. Nip it in the bud by setting yourself up for success!

Live in nannies?

i was a live in nanny for almost two years. now that i am married i can understand the downfalls of it being a wife. just let her know what you expect and have her keep busy with the baby. taking care of kids is alot of work and she shouldn't have much time for your husband besides the meal anyway.

Live in nannies?

I would be very uncomfortable with a live in nanny unless she was really a granny type which I would think would be hard to find now. Then I would know she could cook well and would treat me and dh like her children and my children like her grandchildren. And it would have to be someone I know well not just interviewed. Even then the idea of someone other than family living in my home kind of creeps me out.

Live in nannies?

I hate to sound this way, but look for someone older. Not only do you usually get a more experienced and patient nanny this way, but the jealousy should go down.

Im barely comfortable with our daily sitter that doesnt live with us being around my husband (although she is in a relationship, he wouldnt notice if she came up and sat on his lap!), so I understand.

Live in nannies?

We hired a live-in Nanny a few months ago and we just love her. She is not too young, but too be honest I wasn't too worried about it. Maybe I never really thought about the consequences of hiring a young nanny but at the end I didn't have to do it. Regardless of her age and appearance, my nanny is a really nice person and is wonderful with my son. I also get along with her very well. She speaks Spanish (my native language) and my husband's Spanish is not very good, so that might also be "good" for me I guess. As for her bond with my son, they have develop a strong bond already and I love that. That gives me the peace of mind that I'm leaving my child with someone that cares for him while I'm not home. My son still loves being with me, so our bond has not been damage at all. I think if you do your research and find a good person to be your nanny you won't regret it. We certainly haven't regret it for one minute!!

I have to add that even if our nanny is a live-in nanny, she does leave the house on Sat mornings to spend the weekend with a friend, and doesn't come back until Sunday night, so we always have the weekends to be together "just as a family". During the weekdays though she comes with us to whatever we do (out for dinner, to the park, etc.) so she is part of the family as well.